So, first I'll share a short video about the differences between empathy and sympathy, the first forming closer bonds, the second driving people apart:
Makes sense, right?
Now a longer video (that includes the above) that discusses our need to place blame...and that it stems from a place of desire to control. It is sometimes easier to blame ourselves or others than to allow that there is no one to blame --this suffering just is what it is:
And this one is actually my favorite. If you cannot bring yourself to watch them all, pick this one! Here she shares her story of how she as a researcher had a breakdown, and learned the power of vulnerability...and with a fair dose of humor, to boot. This might be a bit off the topic of the post, but it is SO worth the time to listen: